Support Groups
Experience the transformative power of peer support with our virtual support groups. We understand the importance of connecting with others who are on a similar path of rebuilding and healing after queer divorce. Our carefully crafted support groups provide a safe and nurturing space where you can not only gain valuable insights into your own journey but also work collaboratively with fellow individuals who share similar experiences. Join us as we embark on this transformative journey together, supporting one another through the challenges and triumphs of queer divorce and post-divorce life.
Our community has a place for you in it.
The Queer Divorce Club community is dedicated to providing a wide range of support for LGBTQIA+ individuals at every stage of their divorce journey, whether they are contemplating divorce, navigating the process, or rebuilding their lives post-divorce.
We wholeheartedly embrace and support all members of the LGBTQIA+ community, regardless of their gender identity, sexual orientation, or the circumstances surrounding their divorce. Our community is an inclusive space where everyone is welcomed with open arms.
New to Queer Divorce Club?
Join your first session in three simple steps:
1. Register (Takes 2 minutes)
Choose a session time that works for your schedule
Pay what you can: sliding scale, no questions asked
You'll get a confirmation email with your Zoom link the day before your session
2. Join the Call (Just show up as you are)
Click the Zoom link 5 minutes before start time
Come as you are ready to share and participate
3. Experience Community
Listen, participate, or just be present—all are welcome
Share your story if you want, or simply hear others
Leave feeling less alone than when you arrived
First session feels scary? That's totally normal. Here's what might help:
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Welcome tears. We've all been there. Bring tissues, take breaks, turn off your camera if you need to. Crying is healing, and you're in a space where tears are honored, not judged.
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You don't have to say anything specific! If you want to wait and go last or chose not to share at all during your first session, you are welcome to decide what is most comfortable for you. When you're ready to share, you'll know. There's no pressure, ever.
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We keep groups small (8-16 people) and it's rare, but if it happens, you can choose to stay or leave—no judgment either way. If you are worried about your ex being the group, please email us after you register. Confidentiality is our top priority.
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Our community is beautifully diverse across gender identities, races, ages, and family structures. You'll likely find others with similar experiences, and everyone here understands intersectionality.
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There's no gatekeeping here. Questioning your sexuality? Contemplating separation? Legally married or not? Been separated for years? You belong here. Period.
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Our facilitators are trained in trauma-informed practices. Sessions include:
Opportunity to connect with a facilitator one-on-one if you are struggling during the session
Permission to step away anytime without explanation
Grounding techniques offered throughout
Option to keep camera off and just listen
No one will push you to share before you're ready
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Choose $0 at registration. We mean it. 35% of our community attends at no cost. Your financial situation is your business. We're here for support, not profit.
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Here's a typical 90-minute session flow:
Minutes 0-5: Welcome & Settling In
People join, facilitator welcomes everyone
Brief tech check (can everyone hear?)
Overview of today's session
Minutes 5-15: Confidentiality & Guidelines
Review what stays in the room
Establish how we'll communicate (hand raising, chat, etc.)
Grounding exercise or opening ritual
Minutes 15-85: Peer Support Circle
Each person has a chance to share
You can say "I'm just listening today" and that's perfect
Group members offer reflections, not advice
Space for questions, connections, mutual support
Facilitator ensures everyone who wants to speak has time
Minutes 85-90: Closing Circle
Brief check-out: how did it go and is there anything you need from the facilitators?
Invitation to join the online community
Virtual hugs/waves goodbye
Upcoming Groups
Types of Groups
The Queer Divorce Club community is dedicated to providing a wide range of support for LGBTQIA+ individuals at every stage of their divorce journey, whether they are contemplating divorce, navigating the process, or rebuilding their lives post-divorce.
Support Groups
Our Support Groups give you an opportunity to connect with others who truly understand your journey. These safe, non-judgmental spaces allow you to share your experiences, receive peer support, and find community as you navigate healing and rebuilding after divorce.
Breathwork Sessions
Experience the power of intentional breathing with our trauma-informed breathwork sessions led by a professionally trained facilitator. These sessions offer a safe, supportive space to reduce stress, connect with your emotions, and deepen your relationship with your body as you navigate healing and growth.
Let's Be Clear About What to Expect (and What Not to)
Queer Divorce Club Support Groups ARE:
✓ Peer-to-peer support from people who understand
✓ A safe space to process emotions and experiences
✓ Connection with others on similar journeys
✓ Trauma-informed and professionally facilitated
✓ Confidential and non-judgmental
✓ Connect virtually from anywhere in the world
Queer Divorce Club Support Groups ARE NOT:
✗ Therapy or mental health treatment (we recommend both!)
✗ Legal advice (check our Attorney Directory for that)
✗ A place to bash your ex (we focus on your healing)
✗ Religious or faith-based (secular and inclusive)
✗ A dating pool (strictly about healing and support)
Our Support Group Facilitators
Tera Wozniak Stortz
Tera is a queer professional facilitator, writer, and coach. She leads Queer Divorce Club support groups with kindness, love, compassion, and a non-judgemental spirit that guides everyone in the group to an opportunity to express their inner knowing and gain the support they need from each other.
Erika Thomas, MA, LMFT
Erika is a licensed psychotherapist and founder of The Untangling Place offering virtual therapy in Michigan and California. Erika specializes in helping people heal from religious trauma, spiritual abuse, and identity-based oppression. She is queer and neurodivergent-affirming, and creates judgment-free spaces where people can untangle from what's been imposed and reclaim their authentic selves—making her an ideal facilitator for those navigating divorce and life transitions.
Candace Lefke
Candace is a queer trauma-informed breathwork facilitator and guide. She leads Queer Divorce Club breathwork sessions and support groups with care, empathy, and a grounding presence, creating a safe and supportive space for participants to connect with their bodies, release stored emotions, and discover deeper self-awareness on their healing journey.